GOD WANTS US TO FEEL, OR HE WOULDN’T HAVE GIVEN US EMOTIONS IN THE FIRST PLACE
For many people, emotions are a scary thing. Part of the problem is that we just don’t know what to do with them. So we turn to the only strategies we do know. If you’re a man, you might distract yourself by playing video games, tinkering with your entertainment tools & If you’re a woman, you might shop or eat. Turning to these tools occasionally is OK, making them part of your regular coping repertoire, however, is problematic.
Emotions are valuable, and offer a bounty of benefits. Once we’re able to process and cope with them effectively, we can learn a lot about ourselves and our needs. Emotions send us important messages and help us connect with others and accomplish great things.
Now, don’t think for a minute that I’m suggesting that emotions are bad. To the contrary, emotions are a big part of life!
- Can you imagine living in a world where you couldn’t feel love?
- Can you imagine living in a world where you couldn’t feel passion?
- Can you imagine living in a world where you couldn’t feel pride?
- Can you imagine living in a world where you couldn’t feel enthusiasm or joy ?
Nor am I suggesting that you should go around holding your emotions inside, like a human pressure cooker just waiting to explode. All the medical research indicates that people who don’t have a proper outlet for their emotions are most at risk for heart attacks, strokes, ulcers and a whole host of other problems.
It’s okay to feel all your emotions, even the ones that we don’t like to acknowledge, like jealousy, and envy and yes, even anger. And under the right circumstances, it’s okay to vent those emotions.
Even the Bible doesn’t exhort us to deny our feelings, much less to suppress them. God wants us to feel the full range of emotions that He granted us, or He wouldn’t have given those of emotions to us in the first place! There’s even a place for feeling hate, for God commands us to “love the sinner, but hate the sin.”
Even though the Bible is full of stories about people who are punished for letting their emotions get the best of them. Our Dharma Granthas also remind us that there are occasions when it’s perfectly appropriate to wear our emotions on our sleeve.
MAKE YOUR EMOTIONS WORK FOR YOU, NOT AGAINST YOU.
I can remind you time after time, managing your emotions doesn’t mean you stop feeling or even that you stop expressing yourself.
- Managing your emotions means you don’t overreact or under react.
- Managing your emotions means you take a moment to put things in proper perspective.
- Managing your emotions means you remain firmly in control so that your emotions enhance your life, rather than ruin it.
- Managing your emotions means making them work for you, not against you.
Dr Rajiv Srivastava